This week has been… whew. A mix of tests, spiritual awakenings, tears of gratitude, and even a bit of emotional chaos. But in the middle of it all, I was reminded of exactly why I created Poised & Pretty in the first place.

Being poised doesn’t mean you never get upset. It doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. And it definitely doesn’t mean you let people walk all over you. Being poised means choosing how you respond. It means pausing long enough to breathe, to regulate your nervous system, and to decide: “Is this the version of me I want to be?”

This week, I dealt with a situation that triggered some deep-rooted feelings of being unappreciated, misunderstood, and taken for granted. In the past, I would’ve reacted. I would’ve defended myself, overexplained, or tried to fix something that wasn’t mine to fix. But this time? I chose poise. I chose peace.

I reminded myself of my dad’s favorite quote: “He who angers you controls you.” And I reclaimed that power.

I took a moment, I sat with my emotions, and I realized that the situation wasn’t even about me. Sometimes, when people are struggling internally, they unconsciously project it onto others. They don’t even realize it. Their mindset, their fears, their lack of self-awareness can all come bubbling to the surface when pressure hits. And if you’re not grounded, you can get swept into their storm.

But here’s what Poised & Pretty taught me—and continues to teach me:

When you lead with grace, you don’t lose anything. You actually gain clarity, confidence, and control.

People often associate being poised with just looking good or being composed on the outside. But it’s deeper than that. It’s an energetic frequency. When you’re grounded, secure in who you are, and connected to your higher self, you’re literally magnetic. Manifestation becomes easier because you’re not letting temporary chaos dictate your inner world.

Think about it—in every true crime doc, the most regrettable actions happen in moments of emotional impulsivity. Acts of passion are always driven by a lack of emotional regulation. And while most of us aren’t out here committing crimes, we are making decisions in moments of stress, fear, or anger that can derail our goals, our peace, and our manifestations.

Being Poised & Pretty is a lifestyle. It’s an embodiment. It’s the art of responding instead of reacting. And that energy? That’s what quantum leaps are made of. That’s what keeps you aligned with your desires.

So if you’re in a season where people are projecting, misunderstandings are arising, or life just feels like a little too much—remember that poise is your superpower. Pretty is your frequency. And grace is your secret weapon.

The more you live in this energy, the more life reflects it back to you.

Stay radiant,
Niecy